This evening I was at home for 20 minutes and managed to anger my wife to the point she swore at me.
I got in said hello. W was busy and so I got my dinner. While I was eating I sent her an email with updated draft agreements. Went uostairs and got changed to go out
Came down and she accosted me and started having a go about how it shouldn't be the final settlement and that I was bullying her into it but she is 'f******g done' with me so she will sign it
I carried on getting my stuff so I could go out. She got annoyed at this. And then got more angry to the point she said she was done.
A couple if times I said I had to go because I would be late (which I nearly was). She got annoyed I had plans.
She wanted a definitive answer about money which I wasn't prepared to give so more spew.
She told me I shouldn't find it funny and said this is my 'pathetic retribution for me divorcing you'. I didn't laugh but i stayed perfectly calm and I was half out the door - it looked like I didn't care. I did say I don't understand why she thinks this is some kind of retribution as I'm doing what she asked.
I did what she asked today, then told her I'd done it
She is really annoyed about my position on the finances but I would be being stupid to do any different.
Things I think I did wrong. - emailed her before speaking to her which meant she initiated the conversation. She talked about me hiding it. - didn't validate her - went to leave while she was still talking but didn't actually leave.
I guess it would easily look like I was being petulant and passive aggressive by emailing her, not talking to her then going out
Thinking of texting her now to say.
'Hi, apologies for not speaking to you before sending you the updated draft. I didn't mean to add to any concerns. I'll be sorting out the cash transfer tomorrow so its just a question of how long it takes to clear '
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
