It's all boring and her calling bothers you. But, can you picture what would be if she does not call at all and you have no chance to talk to her or not even a reason to call her?
I was very upset with my H calling, text and want to be nice to me, and be friends, and one day wants a D and another says he does love me. It was killing me, driving me crazy, I was inside his roller coaster of emotions and to be able to detach I asked him to back off. I told him I needed my space to put some order in my life and forget him romantically.
Since Tuesday last week I got one message and on call. In some ways it is very good. I am able to breath again, but I have this hole inside me. I keep wondering what he is up to, I keep thinking if it was the right thing to do since it will make it easier for him to totally take me out of his life.
So, the coin has two sides and we need to choose one. I have been less hopeful lately and it hurts. I lifted my sitch to God now, be what will be. I totally lost any control of this situation, I have no idea of what will happen if it has any chance to happen. Now, my only choice is to detach further and have no expectations what so ever.
To make it even worse, I need to talk to my L to develop my D settlement, which will go pretty bad w/H since it will probably ruin his financial life. When it all happen I think we will be done for good.
So, I am giving you some perspective to think about what would be better for you right now.
Can you try to build up from here, with dialog, caring, patience?
Do you need her to back off and leave you alone for awhile?
Do you want her constant chit chat or you rather have her silence right now?
It's a choice and it's your alone. You know who you are and what you need and want. Just remember that you will get what you are looking for.
I did it and I am not very sure if it was good for me. I miss my H around, miss talking to him, and I have no opportunity to show anything to him anymore. Now it's me and my life.
