She wants a relationship with you as, at least, good co-parents.
She MAY also harbor self doubt about her choice to leave.
She MAY wonder if you are changing for real, and she MAY care if you are.
Mozz, I don't think ANY Woman leaving a h and child(ten) could have zero 2nd thoughts.
Absent abuse, every single mother is going to wonder if she's doing right by her kids, by leaving. (MORE ON THIS, LATER)
I think you fear that she believes or fears the following:
that if she were to come home to you, it would require way too much work on her end, and only or mostly on HER end, for her to be able to do it and maintain self respect. = Too much shame would be heaped on her.
Sort of "well life with Mozz wasn't great anyhow, and now he'll make me pay for ever wanting out, so no thanks."
AND OR
'Mozz will hold the A over my head forever and or throw it in my face every time he gets angry, so 'no thanks'. Why bother trying if he's setting me up to fail?" WHEREAS YOU WISH she'd come to wonder or believe that
"Wow, Mozz is a changed man. He's a really good father. He is now the way I always wanted him to be. He's now truly the man I thought he was when I married him...
wow I wonder if we could make it work, this time... what if I'm willing to own my part and prove my commitment to him?
What would that look like? "
That^^ is what you wish for, correct?
Because if it is, then we can advise you best that way.
Let us know.[/color]
25yrsmlc, Many of us here wish for what you describe above. I know I do. Thanks for all the time you spend here helping us.
Me43/WAW43..M 4y..S1 11/S2 4..Bomb2/2014..Dfile 5/2014..Settlement signed 8/20/14..D final 8/29/14 I moved out 10/10/14..WAW got D she wanted. I wanted R. No waiting,just no boundaries in her way.
