Intro and Thoughts

[BFloat]

I'm not sure if your wife is actually in an MLC. Sounds more like an EA which could also possibly be a PA. Don't under estimate the great lengths they will go to hide/deny any of this is happening.

I have to agree with Starsky's post. I'm not sure why your still initiating physical contact when she has repeatedly said she wants to leave. You previously said that not hugging her back etc would be fake on your part. It is not fake to say to yourself.. I know she is looking for emotional/comfort but, I need to refrain from initiating because I am just a bandaid for whatever it is she is going through.

You need to detach. There is a great post by unworthy about detaching on the newcomers board (I am on my iPad and I'm a little challenged at navigating between different pages). Detaching doesn't mean going along with her ride and letting her determine which course you take. It's about letting go and finding your own path which may or may not lead up with hers.