HP, IMHO, going dark means when a couple never sees each other nor communicates, which is almost impossible if you co-parent. Sometimes, trying to give the illusion of being dark may appear to be something entirely different to her. Just something to consider, if you run out of anything to think about.
I do believe there are times to pull back or not engage, but I wouldn't call it going dark.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
