Hey HP, I am going to throw one more little piece of advice out here for you. Slow down! Meaning mentally slow down. Allow yourself to breathe and to have time away from the drama that is your life right now. One of my regrets is how much control I gave my situation and how I allowed it to take up too much of my day. I ended up losing a great job, great family home, and most importantly time in my life.
I understand that the fact of the matter is you feel like you are engaged in some form of battle so as a man you go into the warrior mode and think constantly about your next move or plan or strategy. You have to stop this part of it from taking over and allow yourself time away from it.
I liked your answers as for what you want to be, that needs to be where you put your focus. Particularly right now the "what kind of dad" you want to be. Your child is struggling and feeling things that they should not be feeling at that age. Remember that you are the guardian for your child. Your #1 job is not to save your marriage, it is to minimize any adverse affects on your kids. There is a great movie out there that I watched while dealing with all this, it is called "Courageous". It is a religious backed movie but the message is the important part. Being Jewish myself I just separated out the religious undertones and received the message about what God intends for us as a father in regards top protecting and leading our children into adulthood. I highly recommend you rent it and watch the message. I think it will help you tremendously with the situation with your child.
