I thought everything was okay.....(Part 3)

[Vanilla]

MCS

This W of yours iseems very confused, lost and guilty. Probably ashamed and angry at the same time.

Fear resonates from you. Fear of doing anything for fear of upsetting W.

MCS your children are first in your life and should be in Ws too.

There is so much in your post but there is a veneer of fear. Fear of further loss, but W is already lost to you, she is lost to herself and nothing you can do will change that. You are going to have to let W be lost. You are going to be the strong one. It looks to me that you can not hurt W any more than she is doing this to herself.

W has to find herself as a mother and to herself. Everything you write shows inconsistency. MCS you will have to be the Source of action for your children, W has made decisions which appear illogical to you but they are not illogical to W.

Please be aware you are not taking control of W, in any way. You are creating structure for your children, boundaries through which you can operate.

Held firm with gentle loving tones. strong and independent of thought for these precious bundles that are part of you.
Vanilla