Your interactions with W today has improved a lot...no? All because of your conscious awareness of how you choose to act with her. Well done! Keep going in this direction.
Originally Posted By: HPoirot
I have the final bills from our old home for her to pay a part of. Also the S12 tuition and the taxes. She needs money to get an apartment soon. I'm about to hit her with these bills. How can I do that lovingly instead of her feeling like I'm punishing her with life lessons?
This part is tying loose ends of your old place and your approach will need to come from a place of collaboration as in "hey, there's some stuff that we need to take care of....(rattle of the items). How would you like to handle this? Here are my thoughts (detail them). What do you think?"
Just the facts ma'am.....then stay out of the way. Let life show her the lessons which we are seeing here already based on her comments about the heat, long drive to school, looking at apts, etc. W isn't liking it at all. Trust the process.
Keep going in this direction.
