you're dealing with someone who needs to DB his own life, like you have. The difference is he is NOT doing the work on himself. It's obvious he has not spent much, if any, time in introspection. Do you think he's still miserable? And if so, is he still blaming it on you?
Yes. I wish he could get the same advice or at least similar advice that I do here. There is ZERO introspection. He was never big on introspection before (something that really frustrated me) but he is hell-bent on not being wrong. Not just being right but really, really not being wrong and ME being wrong. It's almost childish how much that's his goal.
And yes, he's still blaming all of his unahppiness on me. All of it.
Thanks for the accolades on not reacting. I needed to hear that! i didn't even realize or give myself credit for that HUGE feat! I think I was VERY unreactive. I did feel insecure and uneasy afterwards, worried that the conversation that I would call "a serious discussion" he would deem an "argument" and walk around saying "see? she's such a b!tch and we argue all the time".
Afterwards I was really worried about that. Can't control him though.
