Ss, you're dealing with someone who needs to DB his own life, like you have. The difference is he is NOT doing the work on himself. It's obvious he has not spent much, if any, time in introspection. Do you think he's still miserable? And if so, is he still blaming it on you?
From what I've heard, many WAS's eventually realize that the LBS was not the source of their unhappiness. But just from personal experience (extended family, etc), I know that not all of them do. Some spend the rest of their days believing their life was ruined by some guy 20 years ago. When he starts speaking in "absolute negatives", you have to trust in your own self-work and all of the honest, deep, sometimes painful questions you've had to ask yourself. You are owning what you should own. Don't buy any more than that no matter how much he tries to sell it to you. Also, you did a great job not engaging with the argument! You know exactly where that road leads, and it certainly isn't "ah, I see your point, Ss06. That is a fair statement."
Last edited by Card29; 01/12/1504:03 AM.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
