This is where detachment is your friend. You can step back, evaluate as you did, and decide the best way forward for your d. Using your detachment to evaluate the best way to get what you need from your H.
The idea that she'll outgrow all this stuff in puberty is laughable. But what can you do? He's going around his boulder in his own way. So how can you solve for this while accepting that this is the person you have to work with?
I'm guessing that if you carry on he'll kind of just notice without taking much action.
BTW, I notice that a lot of anxious parents get defensive and go into denial about these things when they're anticipating this sort of evaluation. Even the great ones worry that a diagnosis will somehow turn their child into the diagnosis rather than their child. They sometimes let their fear keep them from seeing the diagnosis as a tool rather than a sentence.
Does reframing his comments help with that?
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
