a young marriage in trouble

[Vanilla]

ins
You may not see this but you are doing well. Better than you see yourself doing and because we are impartial notice how things are. You achieved the required result an acknowledgement that handover interactions need to improve. Seems good to me.

It is absolutely correct to define your boundaries, when W says something which is inconsistent with your behaviour then you can define the boundary. There are many wonderful examples on the site of enforcing boundaries.

You can start with an I statement and then proceed with describing the behaviour which gives you concern and then a consequence. Ins check out some of the detachment discussions here on the board.

Your thread is approaching 100 posts and will lock. It would be best to start a new one before it does. You can link back to your old thread. A new thread is an important milestone, especially your first as it shows you are serious in your DB efforts. It is clear that you are learning and working your sitch very well.

Anger is very difficult to resolve and is yet another step in the process. Becoming more detached will reduce the anger. Ins you are a role model for young fathers and your connection with your son will be lifelong. Detach to achieve your goals to enable co parenting your little S.

Your student years are precious and will end soon enough, so I am pleased your exams went well despite the difficulties.

Vanilla