WAW Won't Communicate (2) - new year, new thread

[okjpc]

Hey there. I stepped away from the forum for a week or so. Reading everyone's sitchs and advice has been extremely helpful to me, but i needed to look squarely at my own for a few days.

I interviewed for the job and it was offered to me. I gave them a slight counter-offer and they are going to get back to me Monday or Tuesday. My kids and I have been staying at a friend's cabin in the woods for the weekend (there's wifi here) to talk about moving v. staying. They're ambivalent.

The new job wouldn't start until the end of May, so they could get through the school year here and have a few months to wrap their minds around it. Also, the foreclosure process on my house should be complete by then.

I've been praying and reflecting a lot about it and I think I'm going to take the job.

Last week, when I went to the other city for the interview, I had dinner with an aunt, uncle and cousins who live near there and had a nice time with them. Then I met up with a friend. Part of this job would entail lobbying/govt. relations for the non-profit I work for. He just got elected to the state House and said he would help me get on my feet in that role. Then I met up with a woman I met on a dating website. I reached out to her, told her I was contemplating a move there and asked her if she'd be interested in meeting. We had a lovely two hour conversation and both left feeling like we had made a new friend.

I guess I've embraced the realization that I need to make decisions for my life (and my kids') regardless of my WAW's actions. And I've mostly accepted that she is gone for good. I have shed a few tears this weekend after not feeling sad for a few weeks and I attribute that to the fact that I am making this decision to move away for good and moving on from her and the family we had together.

We'll be getting home sometime this evening and in time to go to church tonight. I'm feeling pretty good and will get back in the swing of things with this forum.

Thank you all for your help and concern.