Something that was proposed to me some time ago was "what do I want?" and "who do I want to be?" and how did the answers to these questions fit in with the parameters that my wife had set (ie. separation, division of finances, etc.). It came back to actions speaking louder than words and allowing my wife to do the heavy lifting. Something else that helped was what I would want my kids to do in the same situation. Would I want them to do a, b, c and why would I want them to do this (self-respect, respect for others, etc.)?
If you want to live in a duplex, great. If not, why would you do it?
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
