Gogofo - no longer piecing 2nd BD - pt. 2

[gogofo]

Thanks Barry, it does suck and is frustrating and I do deserve better than the W who walked through my door tonight too. I just hate knowing that that person isn't who she really is deep down and she knows it too. The person she really is would be WORKING on us and enjoying it and all the benefits it bestows.

I have been laying awake in bed and thinking about where we have been this last year and some of the things she has said to me. One of them has got me thinking. She has said a couple of times that we should get a duplex with a single kitchen, that way she could kick me out to my side when she was sick of me. I always jokingly replied that it would never work because I would be trying to cuddle up in her bed every night anyways.

I know I am being Mr fix it and grasping at straws right now but I think she is on to something.

When she brings this up it probably matches where our relationship currently is. We both love each other, care about each other, but don't know who we are or have become right now. We both need time and space to figure it and us out, especially during times of great stress. As Bug said, I may need to weather the storm of the doctorate until things get better.

I want to propose an idea to her about our relationship and living arrangements. The house we are in now can be split into basically a duplex because the basement is finished. I want me to move into the basement and her stay upstairs and have us living in a sort of quasi split house marriage. I wouldn't bring up any sort of relationship exercises or talks and she would work on her doctorate in peace. I would definitely do this and work on my self and DB the whole time while making love bank deposits.

I like the idea and highly doubt if I brought it up now that she would be open to the idea, it would probably feel like me pushing again or only thinking about what I want, not what she wants.

I need to settle down and relax for a while but this idea has me excited. I also fear that she will contact her lawyer and go through with the paperwork.

I think it may be one of the only chances we have.