Gogofo - no longer piecing 2nd BD - pt. 2

[gogofo]

Yes my tendency to pressure is showing.

The W and I just had a conversation about us and she said she is done. She doesn't feel happy and she is done trying.

Now to dump a little anger... She doesn't feel happy because of all the carp going on in her life. She doesn't get any peace and most of it is her creation. And to be done trying she would have needed to be trying lately anyways. I don't feel she has done her work.

She said she doesn't want to give me things I need in the relationship, like hugs cuddles etc. Said she felt she shouldn't have to try, it should come naturally. Isn't that what a relationship is, giving the other person what they need or want out of love?

I would love to get us into MC, but I doubt it would do anything different unless she was committed to trying to save the marriage.

This s#cks, I feel lied to about the times she said we could work through anything together and how different we are and how much we have grown. I know she is stressed now and doesn't see it that way, but it feels like I was lied to. I would love to tell her that but it wouldn't do any good and I would feel like carp for it.

I know it is not the end yet and there is still more time left and she has changed her mind before.