But if I ask she can't very well say no without looking bad...so I don't ask. If she asked me, that would be different. My Pastor asked me, and although I accepted, I have a hard time with it. I've been thinking about this and I think part of my issue is a lack of trust in people. If I let you do something for me then you can let me down. If I do it myself you can't. So it may not be a fierce independent nature but more a fearful lack of trust!