What would happen if........

[uRworthy]

When my son was young, he and I would play a game. We made it up and called it, "What would happen if.."

What would happen if he were 10 feet tall?
What would happen if I could fly?

The game continued for many years. And from time to time, even as he is an adult, I will sometimes look at him and say, "What would happen if? The questions are, of course, more realistic now.

But I got to thinking about that game today and my thoughts turned to all of you.

What would happen if you really and truly let your spouse go on their journey?
What would happen if you realized your true worth?
What would happen if you believed that you will be ok?
What would happen if you accepted that things happen exactly as they are supposed to?

This journey we have be sent on is an incredible opportunity to find us. It is heartwrenching and soul breaking...but it is amazing when you come out the other side.

Trust this process. Believe in you and your ability to rise above it. Find your self worth. Trust in your strength. Know without a single doubt, that you will come out of this and be better than ok.

Walk your path with courage and dignity. Do not allow anyone to move you from it.

This was a journey you were meant to take. You could have taken the easier path. It speaks volumes about you that you didnt.

[beatrice]

I agree with all you posted

It is heartwrenching and soul breaking...

It is also soul making. I am starting to feel that I am becoming who I am meant to be. It is wisely said we cannot change the past, or the truth or another person. Which I take to mean we can only change ourselves and the future.

I have hated a lot of this journey. I feel immense compassion for that wounded woman, and I am proud that I no longer feel that way.

To all of you on that path, Urworthy is right - we get through to the other side and life is good there.

[mleigh4]

Thank you for that post. I think we need to be reminded of those things now and then.

Though this journey has been extremely painful and difficult, I already feel like a better person. It has changed me so much, in a good way.

[uRworthy]

Bea, my friend, yes, it is soul making.

It has been an honor to watch you walk your journey and see you so strong and happy.

I have hated a lot of this journey, too. Yet, I would not be who I am today without having made it.

Ml4, so glad that you are feeling good about you. Keep going.

[2BHappy]

I KNOW I'm a better person, I know I will be better than OK.

This journey has helped me in all aspects of my life! The silver lining in the dark cloud.

[LouR]

Thank you for this post - it give all us newbies hope

[Jer2911]

This is a great post! I believe I am finally at the point that I understand all of that about this process/journey.

Sure -- it does hurt like hell, but I know I am going through a process right now that will result in me being a stronger, better version of myself regardless of what happens with my R with my MLCer.

I am also at the point where I am beginning to see more of the silver linings in this... not just with myself and my own process/journey, but with many other aspects of my life.