Shining, there are many who do wake up and realize what they've lost and will try to reconcile. However, there are some that feel so foolish and have that stubborn pride and will not accept what they've done, so they carry on w/their lives and never try to reconcile because it would be too much work. Some will remain stuck and then there are the lbs who have moved on w/their lives and do not wish to reconcile. Time will tell which way your h will sway. For now, continue as you have been and if he does wake up, it's up to him to figure out how to catch up w/you and earn your love and trust back.
I'm glad to read that you have located a new counselor for your D13. Part of winning the battle is that she likes her. She'll more willing to open up to someone she likes and trusts.
As for the MIL, go to lunch and have a good time. Try not to share too much of what is going on w/you and your h. I would try to stick to subjects like work and the children. I'm sure it is going feel strange to meet up w/her, but it sounds like you've got a good relationship w/her.
Yes, life is looking good for you and you've come a long way in a short amount of time. Be sure to stop and smell the roses along the way. Okay?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
