Force of will, controlling the outcome, pretty much the same.
I'm struggling with this today. By wanting or having hopes that it will work - is that forcing my will or controlling the outcome? I'm not fully understanding what you mean.
Hope is tricky because we often hope for something very specific so it's full of expectations. If you hope for what's best for both you and H, then hope can be good. It can get you through the tough times.
Not controlling outcomes gives everyone the freedom to be who they are. It breaks the co-dependency. Re-read the livestrong page on detachment.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
