new and need help with direction and support

[jim0987]

Hi corey, you asked on my thread about in house separation and I thought I'd reply on yours

Honestly its really hard. If you were to read my threads (not recommended) you'll see that I really struggled and haven't managed to detach very much at all.

What you need to concentrate on is behaving like the 37 rules even if you don't feel it. I've used these boards as an outlet for my angst which has helped me to deal with it (thanks all)

My basic tips are for how to cope are:
- have a plan for the next day
- if its not your turn for childcare be out somewhere (better if you've got something social)
- have your own space you can retreat to and be comfortable in
- find a confidante that you can text when its a bit too much but who isn't going to tell you what to do
- get the headspace app (wish I'd had it months ago)

The more you can calm your mind and manage the pressure the easier you'll find it.

The rest is about DB'g and the 37 'rules'

For me my in house separation is about to become complete seperation and if I'm honest I have mixed feelings - I don't want her to go and its a great opportunity to show change, but her being at home while not with me is torture on my emotions

Its hard so good luck.