I'm sure that was hard, Maybell (especially hearing about the one night stands, even if you had suspicions) but you made it As you said, he has his work to do. You've been working hard on yours. You may split up now, but who knows what the future holds. I think you've been pretty clear in your other posts that this is not someone you want in your life at this point in time in that sort of capacity. You mention being sad about seeing what could have been.. but that's not what it IS right now, is it? As SS06 said, it's maybe not the ultimate outcome you wanted, but that outcome takes two people and he's checked out. You've got this
Me:30 H:29, no kids T:12, M:4 (when D was final) 12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore" 6/14: Separated (I move) 1/15: H filed for D 5/15: D final
Gosh mayb you say that so much better than I can, but I so very much related to your feelings.
H may not be ready now, he may never be ready. I do also understand the s bit there is no way I could ever see that with my h now or ever with out huge changes.
I can understand the teary bits too, it shows you genuinely deeply cared.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
After I posted I went to book club. Carried on with my life, I guess. I'm SO tired. Glad to be home in bed.
On reflection I think we would have crashed eventually. He talked about "letting everyone down," not about how much he hurt me. Denied he'd cheated before, until I pressed him about "anything inappropriate" -- as though the one night stands didn't count.
He has work to do.
I need to stew some more. I have friends supporting me all weekend. Thankfully. My head is whirling, but I think I'm on the right track.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Hugs to you! Great job on how you handled everything.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Sending you a hug, Maybell. I think you handled everything well:-)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
As you said, he has his work to do. You've been working hard on yours. You may split up now, but who knows what the future holds. I think you've been pretty clear in your other posts that this is not someone you want in your life at this point in time in that sort of capacity. You mention being sad about seeing what could have been.. but that's not what it IS right now, is it? As SS06 said, it's maybe not the ultimate outcome you wanted, but that outcome takes two people and he's checked out. You've got this