After I posted I went to book club. Carried on with my life, I guess. I'm SO tired. Glad to be home in bed.
On reflection I think we would have crashed eventually. He talked about "letting everyone down," not about how much he hurt me. Denied he'd cheated before, until I pressed him about "anything inappropriate" -- as though the one night stands didn't count.
He has work to do.
I need to stew some more. I have friends supporting me all weekend. Thankfully. My head is whirling, but I think I'm on the right track.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15