Great thanks for insight from DaddyLongShanks, CaliGuy, and Vapo regarding detachment. Had another great day. Work again was busy and productive, 2.5 D was SO excited when I picked her up from DC, then we went to our close friends house for dinner + play date with their two kids. Their oldest (3.5 D) is SUPER with my D and they played great. We got home a little past D's bedtime, she wanted to sit on the couch with me for a few minutes then it was bedtime. She's been DOWN ever since.
I know I am doing a great job being her father these days. We have a lot of fun and really good quality time together, and the fact that she sleep so well means she is having fun, productive days. Tomorrow AM we go to the indoor 'jump park' with another friend and his 2.5 D, them pass off to W around noon.
Am pretty tired myself so can't really find the whimsical words I've recently been penning, but I do have my trademark...
QUESTION FOR ANYONE!
We've been separated since T-giving and I am REALLY enjoying this time...a lot. The first week or so I was still too focused on "my wife" until a wonderful + wise (member) 'sandi2' gave me the following advice...
"...you have a W who is engaging in a behavior that you will see has & will change her character a great deal. She is not the same girl you married."
It was like someone had explained the theory or relativity in a few paragraphs, and ever since then, my clarity has gotten greater and greater...and greater. It totally put me a peace with the situation. I think about it every day and it really helps.
So, the question is, does anyone have a 'general' timelines that I can expect before the next 'big thing' happens with my WAW, like (me) being served divorce papers, etc? I am very content with how I am living now, quality time with my D, the noise and stress from not being around my W is phenomenal, and the time I have to myself which I am using for myself (or maybe shopping or doing something for D). Again, I am living HARD on the 180 with only contact being that (which) she initiates (which is always about our D) and when I respond I keep it light, easy-breezy, and don't deviate from THE RULES, stick to the subject of our D.
So, ANY INSIGHT OR EXPERIENCE FROM ANYONE, would be hugely appreciated because I would be curious to know if / when things might change. Again, just looking for a timeline, "rule-of-thumb" for when the next 'big thing' or change may happen. I have my ducks in a row from a practical side (protecting myself with professional consult) so I have that angle covered, I am more interested in other people's experience after they have already traversed the same road that I am now walking.
Thank you for the continued support!!
Standing by.
M: 44 W: 35 D: 2.5 M +5 | T 10 OM + Affair admitted 11/11/14 Separated 11/27/14
