Hey Lisa,

I think the key phrase in all of this is:

Originally Posted By: LisaB
I don't feel that fantastic to be honest. I'm in a bit of a January funk I think


Only you can figure out what you can handle. If going to the party it is going to to contribute to the January funk then probably not worth it, don't you think? As a reminder, go have a read of the post you wrote after the last party. And the ones a few days later. Do you want to add that to the January funk? Can you make some alternative plans that make you feel GOOD?!

Not going doesn't mean you are avoiding OWs. It just means you are doing what is right by you. Clearly, these OWs have got nothing on LisaA.

FWIW I'm in a similar place at the moment. I think 6-7 months might be a bit of a critical time point. I don't now about you but I recall reading about the people who were at 6 months when I first joined and thinking I wasn't going to last that long. I figured they must pretty much be a DB vet by now. How wrong was I?!


H 37 Me 36
Together 15 years
Married 5 years
No kids
BD Apr 2014
H moved out 2 Jun 2014