I could have written the message 25yrs just posted about the WAS talking about why she left.
My first husband had anger problems and for years I had tried to get him to go get help. It was one thing to have his anger amied at me but when it started towards our kids.... The final straw was when he came home one night and I was washing my hair in the kitchen sink. He couldn't find his keys. He was frustrated and angry so he threw the kitchen table knocking off one of the legs. Ironically it made me jump and my my wedding rings slipped off my finger and down the drain. My three yr old daughter was in the kitchen when it happened.. He could have unintentionally hurt her.
He did everything DB says not to do. He didn't give me space. He snooped through all of my things. He tried to lock me in the house. He sent me flowers constantly. He talked to everyone and anyone about me.
Trust me leaving with four kids aged 3-9 was not any easy choice. I was emotionally done and did not want my kids growing up thinking that behaving that way was acceptable. If he D busted would I have given him a second look? Probably. If I had seen over time changes that I TRUSTED were genuine and sincere then yes I think I would have.
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
