You know - I can see and talk to STBX without butterflies anymore - but when I saw that email come up - I almost threw up. Would really, really, really like to get everything completed. (STBX and I agreed on everything two months ago and his lawyer is just supposed to be drawing up the papers).
They wanted to know about the retirement acct that he cashed out and how much of it he gave me. STBX had not disclosed any of this to him (I doubt it was malicious - I think he just saw it as "his" retirement acct rather than a marital asset. I let them know about it when I corrected a few other mistakes in his initial filing).I replied that they would need to ask their client since I have no idea how much of the money he has given me since BD came from that and how much came from his regular paycheck. You'd think they would start by asking him!
Anyway - I generally think I'm doing pretty good - but then something like this happens and all I can say is that for a minor transaction, that was an extremely powerful and unpleasant adrenaline rush. I need to let go of my fear that he will suddenly want to alter the terms of our agreement. I think about it every day.
