Gogofo - no longer piecing 2nd BD - pt. 2

[gogofo]

So I know during a separation or when DBing it is recommended to not give gifts.

So here is my predicament and I would like some advice.

I bought a new ring to give to my W to replace the engagement ring I gave her that is too big now that she has lost some weight. I bought it before the turn of events the last couple of days and planned on giving it to her this weekend as it is our 10 year anniversary of our first date.

It is something that I wanted to do for her to let her know that I care for her and love her etc. and also because gifts is one of her love languages.

I still want to give her the ring this weekend. My feelings for her have not changed over this new issue we are having. I cannot assume how she would feel because I am not a good mind reader; if I was I wouldn't be in this position.

I feel like staying the course with this gift and going with my feelings and intentions that I felt when I decided I wanted to do this is my best bet. If looking at long term goals and whom I want to be, I would be giving the ring to her. That is because I want to show her in a way that she understands how much I love and value her and women tend to like diamonds/jewelry.

I feel like not giving it to her would be giving into fear and not putting my emotions out there, hiding in fear or embarrassment. It would be more of the old me, not whom I want to become.

I don't want to give it to her after the date and have it be seen as a "reward" for staying, etc.

Opinions?