dawgy, your posts today sound just like your posts 6 months ago. You NEED to be here and to hear what people like 25yearsmlc are telling you. You're here, so that's a win. But you have not listened to dozens and dozens of excellent posts of advice specifically written for you. 25yrs just gave you the most comprehensive, most accurate response yet that I've seen for you. If you don't soak up and embrace that post, I fear you never will actually get what you need to get out of DB (or anything else).
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23