MLCer and EA w/ OW

[Jer2911]

Thanks Wonka.

I already have my own accounts -- we both agreed to no shared accounts when our R became serious because we'd both been burned in previous Rs with shared checking accts. The downside to that is that my income is very low right now... but at least I do have an account that she can't deplete. (pros and cons to everything)

Yes -- I expect the monster to be strong when she gets back from the trip.

I've decided against making a decision on whether I want to take my own trip or not until after she gets back. I want to see what kind of mental state she is in first before I plan a trip leaving the kids here with her. I would love to be able to get away for a bit, but don't want to leave the kids if she seems to be sinking further down into some crazy depression spiral.

I do plan to ask for emergency numbers, but as you said, I don't expect to get any. I suspect she will just tell me to call her cell phone and leave a message that it's an emergency. The old version of my W would give me a spreadsheet with complete itinerary, hotel number, room #, etc. to ensure that I know where she is at all times and how to contact her. But I know I'm dealing with a reckless and rebellious teenager right now.

I also don't think the A is sustainable, but that doesn't mean that when it ends that she will return to me -- she could just as easily go out and find another AP that is more accessible. Trying to be realistic while I also hope and pray for a miracle/wake up call.

:-)