Shocked by W

[Nettles]

HJ, not too bad. Letting the conversation end after W's "Ok Thanks" might have been the play. You answered the question and it isn't real clear what your next move is.

But you didn't and that's ok, so

Me: Hey! I know it took a lot of courage to make this decision and I am proud of you for it.

The "Hey" is to keep the convo going. That should have been a sign to stop it. And now isn't the time for the courage stuff. You haven't been posting a lot lately, but from the content of this exchange, W most likely doesn't care that you think this. If things start to mend, there may be a place and time for it, but not now.

And, I wont fight you on it because I understand why you want it and why you had to make a tough decision.

This isn't drawing her in. And be careful. W may think this means you won't fight her on the terms of the D. I hope that isn't what you meant.

Whenever you are ready, I am. Just let me know when and what you need.

So you are ready for the D?

My thought is that she doesn't need my consent or to notify me to file for divorce. Why would she ask me? She knows its not what I want and I don't believe in it.

There are several strange comments by W in here, but you don't need to waste time and energy on interpretting them. Instead of doing that, read or re-read DR/DB, use what is in those, and if you want feedback here, post often.

Thanks for your service to our country HJ. You are the few, the proud. We are all rooting for you here.