Retreat

[Marylov]

Thanks for the feedback. You are saying all the right things, things I really need to hear. Basically it comes down to the fact that I have put myself first, and him second. His needs came second to my preferences, and you are absolutely right, that is unacceptable.

I promise that I have done A LOT of reflecting on what changes I need to make.

What I really need from this group is advice on how to implement that changes our marriage needs, which is to put his needs FIRST, to listen to him and be the wife he needs…while detaching? While GAL? How can I do both? I know that all I can change is myself, but how can I be less selfish, while focusing on myself? I want so badly to consider him first in all things, but that is exactly what the book says not to do?