Angry WAH blames me for everything.......(2)

[TLEE86]

IMHO, you should ignore it. By saying anything about his self-deprecating comments you are only acknowledging his feeling sorry/bad about himself. This is not a good cycle.

H should not feel bad about himself to you. You are his W. By constantly going to you and saying how bad he feels he is just associating you with negative things, feeling like he is not good enough.

If you remember, my W has a constant habit of apologizing to me. Not a good thing. 90% of the time she doesnt even do anything wrong. I asked DB Coach about this and she said to just ignore her apologies, unless its something serious because I am only encouraging W to keep apologizing to me, making her feel like she is always doing something wrong. Obviously not a good habit.

Slight difference in the 2 sitch's, but your H is already depressed. Why fuel his depression by acknowleding his self-deprecating comments? By ignoring it, unless its something legitimate, he may stop all the negativity. Just my 2 cents