MLCer and EA w/ OW

[Jer2911]

Update: Have confirmed that her upcoming "silent retreat" is indeed a trip out of the country to meet up with OW.

Oddly, I don't feel as sick about this as I thought I would. I feel no need to confront her about it. I know the truth, and confronting her about it will only make her want to go even more.

I am feeling disappointed in her for making such a reckless move. She can't tell anyone where she is going -- so there will be no way for us to contact her if there is a life or death emergency here at home with me or with the kids. The chances of that are highly unlikely, but my W -- who she was before MLC -- would never do something like this. It is reckless -- and very expensive (for someone who is expressing to me so many concerns about money and my dependence on her financially...)

I do know how to contact the OW if there really is a huge emergency (as in me or one of the kids seriously injured or hospitalized), and I do have family here that I can rely on... So it's not that big of a deal if there is an emergency, but this is still so out of character for my W.

As for my feelings right now... I'm actually doing pretty good. I suspected this anyway so it's not a shock. It is what it is. I can only hope and pray for a safe trip -- and of course, that once they are together in person that one or both have a wake up call about the situation. As for me, while she is away, I will embrace my children and shower them with my love while I continue working on myself and reaching out to my network to find a new full-time position.