Originally Posted By: Calibri


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You are a determined woman and you want to do this by force of will. That won't do it.

Yes I am determined. But may I ask, how do you perceive I'm doing this by force or will?

Bug - my response sounds snitty, and it's not. I can't think of a way to re-word it, but I'm not trying to be snitty. :-)



It does sound snitty but I've learned not to take things personally. No harm, no foul.

Force of will, controlling the outcome, pretty much the same.

Drop the contact until you feel you're in charge of you and not expecting anything. That's detached.

Your moods are still attached to how communication is going with him or what his mood is. That's not detached.

Let go.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss