Shocked by W

[hjoseph]

Good Morning! I need some feedback.
Late last night, I receive a text from the wife asking when will I be ready to finalize everything?

Me: I have the forms and they are filled out. I did not pay to file them, yet. (I did not intend for her to know that or to even file. but , it was late and I was tired. I filled them out just in case she had left me no other choice. i.e. she is in a serious relationship with someone else and its public knowledge)

Her: Okay. Also, my mom will be busy tomorrow and I have to go to work in the morning. Can you watch the boys?

Me: I leave for Orlando this weekend. I have a site visit.

Her: Ok Thanks

Me: Hey! I know it took a lot of courage to make this decision and I am proud of you for it. And, I wont fight you on it because I understand why you want it and why you had to make a tough decision. Whenever you are ready, I am. Just let me know when and what you need.

Her: Okay. Well, I have my part over next week.

Me: So, you will be the petitioner?

Her: it doesn't matter.

Me: ok. just keep me informed on what you do when you are done. Just call me when you have to serve me.

Her: I thought you said you already filled out the paper work.

Me. I have, but I would prefer if you were to do it because its something that you want.

Nothing after that. Did I handle it well? I was kind of emotional about it.

My thought is that she doesn't need my consent or to notify me to file for divorce. Why would she ask me? She knows its not what I want and I don't believe in it.