Bea, I am very sorry about your BIL. It's always difficult to know which way to go when something like this happens and I think you did the right thing in sending condolences along to your xh.
It will be interesting to see if your xh responds to your latest missive and what his answers will be. Yes, he may have ceased contact for now...but he'll be back around again. He really is a very lost soul and needs those "kibbles". It's too bad he can't let you go.
I'm glad you are stronger and in a better place. There for a while, he was driving you nuts w/allegations and threatening to take you to court. I still don't rule that scenario out, especially if he's angry about something in the future.
Bea, please take care of yourself. I do worry about you because your xh is right up there w/some of the other irrational ones.
I hope you have some fun plans for the weekend.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
