Thanks a lot Card29. Yes, I follow your sitch very closely and learn from your journey. I was very impressed at your quick change and am eager to see how it will play out. It's interesting that OM dumped your W, though in my case, OM dumped his girlfriend and now lives with my W...
Thanks a lot for your recommendations on how to get a hold of my emotions. I've watched the video and I have the Headspace app on my phone. I'm really not comfortable with meditation - I liken it to trying to stand on a static bike. It's because my brain is used to solving problems by going into overdrive, not resting. Perhaps with practice...
Yes, but remember, their R started back in May/June. It lasted about the average length of the typical A (~6 months). Don't worry about your WAW's R with OM...it probably won't last, but even so, worrying about it will only hurt you and your detachment. As far as my quick change of heart...I'm just as surprised as anyone, with how obsessed with WAW I was the previous 6-1/2 months, but 2 weeks later, am just as detached, if not more so. We shall see.
I have the same issue with Headspace. I am a thinker (it's 2:00 am because I've just been thinking and thinking for 6 hours now, ever since D2 went to bed! We'll see if I develop the "skill" of meditation. So far I have enjoyed Headspace but some of the tasks have been difficult for me. Especially having a "soft focus" (my mind's response is, "Okay. But what, exactly, are we softly focusing on?") and scanning the body to see how everything feels. When I try to actually do that, I can't tune in to any particular point on my body! I will keep trying, though. In general, I feel good after a 10 minute Headspace sessions.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
