The final stages...withdrawal to acceptance

[Rita]

A lurker posting at last. Wonka, if you are still there -- what do you think of this whole Stirring the Pot notion? It seems from your posts (I have read many) that you were in a fog and no fork, knife or spoon could have stirred you out of it. Once the fog lifting, stirring was not needed. Is this accurate or do you believe in stirring the pot? I am content to wait on my in-house MLC'er as long as it take, but the one thing that is unbearable to me is my 9-year old son is totally unraveling, and I don't know how to deal with it. So though I never say anything at all to my husband relating to our relationship, I keep thinking about stirring the pot in regards to my son. Mostly I conclude that it would be pointless, but after a few hours of my son calling me a b-tch and an a--hole, I start to lose my resolve. I usually run-don't-walk to the church at the corner to cry for a while and get it together to return.