newbie needs help part 5

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Hpoirot, she claims that the Affair ended last spring however in July I saw her car in his garage.She said that that was last time that she saw him and it was to let him know that she was getting a divorce. Go figure! I have done my snooping and do believe it has been over for 3 or 4 months but I have zero trust with her. You know the saying around here, believe nothing! All cheaters are liars etc. As far as a future R with her i can honestly say that I have no interest in her current state. Do I still care about her! Absolutely! Do I still love her! Yes! But it takes 2 to make it work! We can do everything in our power to change ourselves and become a better us,but unless they do the same there is no chance. So being her freind rt now ain't in the cards. I will be a great dad to my kids and don't wish anything bad for my stbxw. But this is her journey! I didn't sign up to be a platonic freind! She lost my friendship and only she can fix that. I won't be holding my breath. I will love her from a distance anything else is up to her.