Hey 1foot2.
Reading thought your posts it seems like you are still very attached to your wife and marriage.
What she is doing is so immature. Your kids will long term suffer from this. And so will you. I know you want that marriage back somehow and want to turn her around but seriously. You should immensely detach, man up and put your foot down. Eveb tho you are married, you can NOT tolerate her behaviour. She's using your money to have an A racking up unpaid parking tickets.
You have to create some boundaries and get away from this.
I know you got kids which makes everything 10 times harder but something needs to happen. Your situation is unacceptable! sorry if I sound negative, you're probably an awesome guy just trying to do things right but I think it's time to take care of yourself and the kids and drop her, she needs to realize what she's doing here. And she never will if you keep catering to her a single bit.

You can do this! Don't let yourself and the kids down. find happiness in yourself and your actions!!

Last edited by Complex; 01/09/15 04:43 AM.

Me 32 (German) Wife 28
T 3yrs M 2yrs
Moved to US for W
No kids
BD 6/2014
In house separation
Confirmed EA 1/2015
(ongoing since BD)
OM not ready
Real D talk started 1/27/15