Angry WAH blames me for everything.......(2)

[Mozza]

What's nice with BD is that you don't have to tell people that you're still pining for your M. You give him space, move on, GAL, do it for you, etc. For those who know I hope to reconcile, I gain their support by observing that I'm doing the exact same thing as if I had given up. For those who don't know, well there's nothing about my public behavior that suggests I am hopeful.

If people ask me point blank if I still hope to reconcile, I pause and say: "Well, it's only been four months after a 10-year relationship, so perhaps yes, I'm not completely detached, but I guess it's a process." Also, if they ask if the S is permanent, I reply: "Was my M permanent?"

You might have the same problem my IC sees in me: We seek validation of our thoughts. I love to tell my story in a way that convinces people of my perspective. I know it because everyone ends up telling my that W is immature, that this R with OM can't last, etc. As much as I want, I can't tell another story. I've no hesitation telling them "she's with a colleague she had met a month earlier and he's 10 years younger than me" but I very rarely can say "A month before, she wrote me that she was miserable and wanted to find a way to take a break without hurting each other."