You are just business partners. You need to detach from all this nuance. Asking for him to use specific language is controlling. If he legitimately can't cover his days because of a work obligation, why shouldn't he assume that his daughter can live with her mother?
Claire, sorry I see it this way too. Your H may not have asked well but I don't think he meant any harm by it. The finer techniques of phrasing is something you guys can work on later. For now, let your H ask awkwardly and focus on what's best for your D. You have too many years in front of you to get caught up in anger and resentment this early. Your D doesn't deserve that.
