Accepting your situation does not mean agreeing with it.
I think about this a lot. I know someone whose partner died when they got hit by a car while walking across the street. She was holding his hand at the time.
I have a friend whose husband was diagnosed with cancer and died, leaving her with two young girls.
If your W had died, you would feel grief...and anger. But you would have to accept the reality of your situation.
This is the same thing. Accept the reality of your situation. Stop fighting it, and stop fighting her.
The way you have been acting... do you think you are being someone only a fool would leave? Are you giving her reasons to see you as her best option?
This may (or may not) be the hardest thing you'll ever do. You can do it.
