I'm struggling with nearly the same issues as you and your W. My sitch is different, as we both worked, same industry, shared household duties, kid duties , etc. however, she still said that she had the feeling of being 'below me'. At one point said she felt like I was a boss and she was an employee. I still can't wrap my mind around most of these statements. Not that it matters, but no one can tell me things I did that made her feel that way. however with her A; I wonder if it was because I was confident and comfortable in my life over the last year and she wasn't in hers. I just wish I knew she had felt this way, I would have done anything for her to feel better.
Hang in there, the self reflection is good and the biggest part of this process. As you can see, you are now appreciating things she did for you. She's probably starting to feel the same way about things you did, thus some of the reaching out to you
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
