I'll try and speak for her, because my IC is working with me on the same thing. The force of will is the struggle of 'waiting it out' without relinquishing all control. Not saying that's bad, but in my case; I spend so much time trying to figure out my next move...should I text her this, what would she think, what if she calls, should I be strong and confident or show vulnerability, etc. etc. etc.
Basically, what IC says is I'm getting so emotionally involved in the future, that its preventing me from doing what I need to do today. She says W is living for the present w/o looking at the future at all; MCS is looking at the future w/o living in the present. Neither is especially healthy...my approach seems more logical, but logic got thrown out the door at BD.
Make sense? Basically, not sure your beliefs, but force of will is not going to ensure you get what you want.....the only thing that you need to focus on right now is having faith that the outcome will be what it will be and that outcome will be okay regardless of what it is. Its like the Rolling Stones song..."You can't always get what you want.......but you'll find you'll get what you need."
I need to heed my own words here
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
