We are still living together in separate bedrooms though. I still do everything a butler would do, except deliver the meals to her office/bedroom. She eats the leftovers from the meals I cook. Is it time to 180 and stop washing her laundry and prepare less food so there is no leftovers? You are the healthy one, right?
But you want to take FOOD away from your wife, whom YOU say is mentally ill?
Do you hear yourself?
In seven yrs she has cooked maybe once a yr and I don't recall her doing any laundry.
So on your SCORECARD, she's not winning? How about NOT keeping a record of wrongs and getting rid of the scorecard altogether? Because on HER Scorecard, guess what? You are probably way behind!
Scorecards are never good for a marriage. Ever. Lose the scorecard asap. Especially since you claim she's sick.
Her suv is broke down, I probably can do the repairs but won't unless she asks me to.
Wow...so you KNOW her SUV needs repairs which YOU can make...okay
Have you read the Div Busting or Divorce Remedy books?
I get the feeling you are not familiar with our approach here b/c that is a strange comment to make.
Please read the book(s) again if you did once before. I'd read it more than once if I were you (I did anyhow).
You need to decide what your goal is, b/c a lot of your behavior is NOT directed at a reconciliation or showing her a NEW you...AND
Act in accordance with your goals and NOT how you feel at the moment.
Show restraint. Remember you are the healthy one. Show stability.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
