Thank you for your post. First off, you're right about the long paragraphs.
I think she did file for divorce, at least intially, to "wake me up." Now, after 11 weeks have gone by, I'm not so sure. Early on, she mentioned a couple that we know who was in court to sign thr divorce papers, and the wife changed her mind right there!
I wondered why she brought that up. Who knows? To lead me on? Encourge me? I would read nothing into it, but last among these ^^ options is leading you on. To what end? There's no advantage to her.
If my wife were here, she was say I became very argumentative, needy and I smothered her. Looking back, I agree with her. of course (except for the arguments) I thought I helping her!
Boy, was I wrong.
Take care all.
Bob
Not sure how arguments "help" her but the bottom line is, what are you going to DO to change? You cannot fix her. She's not within your control (never was).
You're here to save your marriage so if you want me to explain why it's YOU who must change and why it's YOU who must take the first step, and the 2nd and 3rd and 6375th step,
it's b/c you are here trying to save your marriage; and she's not. Most WASs won't return to a marriage they left.......ever......
unless they believe that the marriage can be different/better than before.
It's your job to show her that. Not with words but actions.
What, specifically are you doing to demonstrate that? What's new or different about how you interact and behave and use your free time?
How are your GAL activities? And btw, saying you are "NC" is not nearly enough of a 180 to count. IT's more like "I'm choosing to DO NOTHING and calling it my DB work"...
there's more to DBing than NC...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
