It sounds to me like your wife is still harboring a lot of resentment. I would keep validating her feelings. Tell her if you could you would change the past. You can now only learn from that and change the future. If she was not connected to you she would not be able to relax and be intimate during vacations. We women need to feel emotionally connected to be physical.
Considering you have very busy everyday lives can you arrange date nights? How about getting a house cleaner once a week? Remove some of the stresses you can control. Knowing the house is clean and having a prearranged date night to look forward too may help rekindle the flame. Intimacy is important. It's what makes a love relationship different from a friendship.
Pouting and demanding sex is a big turn off. That being said discussing your feelings of rejection,missing her and need for the physical part of your relationship is important too. This is better talked about when sex is not expected at a time you are both free to talk over coffee.
There are books that discuss the differences between how men and women think. I know we aren't supposed to post book names so I wont. You can find them easily in relationship areas of bookstores. Think Men from ---- women from --- You may find ways through those to communicate your needs to your wife without getting her back up
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
