OK so I am complete imbecile. No if buts or maybes - there us just something wrong with me.

I know its a terrible plan on every level but when I got home wife's phone was there and without thinking I picked it up and snooped. The moment I punched in the code a new facebook message appeared and time stamped so my W will also know that I snooped. ANY good work or progress (limited I know) has been undone.

It feels like the final nail in the coffin of her ever trusting me again and without trust there can be no R. But she's right because apparently I can't be trusted to respect her privacy.

I was hoping to post something good about my PMA and the fact I was out with a meetup group this evening. Turns out for all of my situation that lack of self control and my apparent NEED to know what my STBXW is doing is my biggest problem.

Really mind bogglingly stupid.

Sorry, I feel like I've let pretty much everyone down.


Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress